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4 Fixing Marriage Tips

Do Things With Love

One thing to remember is that marriages aren’t jobs and one of the simplest ways to wreck a marriage is by making everything feel like an obligation. It’s essential that you and your spouse establish a give-and-take balance although everything should be done freely and from the heart.

Can you remember back when you were head-over-heels in love and could not get enough of each other? You spoke passionately about marriage and the life you would have together. There was nothing that mattered more than being attached together in sacred matrimony. You would have never thought that a time would arrive when you couldn’t even sleep together in the same bedroom because you are always the one doing the house cleaning and your spouse can’t carry the trash out..

When doing something pleasing for your partner, the reason is because you love them and want nothing but gladness for them. You shouldn’t be running a mental list of all the wonderful things you’ve done and all the things that haven’t been done for you. Every relationship takes work, although it doesn’t have to feel like work.

Stop Nagging

We all know what nagging sounds like. Men are to blame as much as the women. Wives protest about lengthy working hours, throwing dirty clothes on the floor, the amount of time used up on sports, TV and drinking alcohol or not giving ample time to the family. On the flip side, most husbands nag about how much time their wife wastes on the telephone or getting prepared, and they complain about their grumbling wife! A quick way to fix marriage issues is to merely to stop nagging. Know that nagging will not get anything achieved.

If there’s something you disapprove about your partner or their behavior, determine the root of your concern. Question yourself why this troubles you and why are they behaving this way. Could you be at fault ? What should you do to aid the situation? What agreements are you willing to make? Ask yourself, What can I do to mend this relationship? Be rational and then approach your spouse and talk about it. Too much nagging can form a crack in your relationship.

Think Before Speaking

Whenever you are feeling angry or bitter, try to remember that saying spiteful or hurtful things will not repair your marriage problems. The matter will only get worse. You should think before speaking as words, once said aloud, can’t be retracted. Will putting down your spouse make you feel better in the long run? Definitely not! There’s no reason for unkind words to come out at all.

Nothing is wrong with wanting to deal with things that are troubling you. However, do so after the initial flood of anger and hostility has quieted and you are capable of discussing matters rationally.

Mending a marriage is never one-sided. For a successful marriage to be possible, both partners need to have a shared desire to make compromises and see the other spouse happy. As long as this commitment is true in your heart, no barrier will be too hard to overcome.

Avoid Verbal Abuse

Be cautious and avoid verbally abusing your spouse. Words can cause great disturbances, especially in a marriage. Are you someone who loses his/her temper easily and is prone to lash out at your partner? Then maybe it’s time to change your behavior. In time, the verbal abuse will result to an emotional toll on you or your partner. You might feel that they were “just words” and forget you had even said them but I promise you, your spouse will definitely not.

For the person hearing those harsh words, the pain of verbal abuse can be a great burden and be very hard to forget. Any type of verbal abuse should be stopped right away if you have relationship problems and want to fix things without divorce.

These are just a few things that can ruin a marriage. Each action is not just cruel, but also tremendously disrespectful. If you truly love your spouse, why would you want to upset them? If you truly wish for a healthy, happy relationship, ask yourself if you doing things similar to the examples above. If your answer is yes, then you should do anything in your power to create change. Your marriage will thank you kindly!

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It’s just after 12 o’clock here on the left coast, which means Operation Chokehold should now be in full effect. What that means (if anything at all) is still up in the air — which is why we’re turning to you for a status report.

For the initiated: Operation Chokehold is a sort of cyber-protest against AT&T, as conjured up by some dude playing a dude disguised as another dude. For one solid hour between 12 and 1 Pacific, angry iPhone owners are supposed to gobble up as much data as they can in an “attempt to overwhelm the AT&T data network and bring it to its knees.”

The call to action:

Subject: Operation Chokehold
On Friday, December 18, at noon Pacific time, we will attempt to overwhelm the AT&T data network and bring it to its knees. The goal is to have every iPhone user (or as many as we can) turn on a data intensive app and run that app for one solid hour. Send the message to AT&T that we are sick of their substandard network and sick of their abusive comments. THe idea is we’ll create a digital flash mob. We’re calling it in Operation Chokehold. Join us and speak truth to power!

I would do it, obviously, but I’m overseas right now and if I turned on data I could buy De La Vega a new yacht with the roaming charges.

Now I’m all for a bit of fun, obviously, but isn’t it ironic that this is what passes for political action these days? Our forefathers went to union meetings, we use Pandora all day. Oh well. At least AT&T can’t hire the Pinkertons to bust our heads.

The heads of the UK’s largest ISPs have co-signed a letter of protest against the proposal to disconnect suspected illegal file-sharers from their broadband service.

The open letter was sent to The Times on Thursday by the chiefs of TalkTalk, BT, and Orange, as well as representatives of the …

Is it just me, or does this recordable megaphone seem kind of lazy? On one hand I understand that a megaphone can be an effective tool for making one’s concerns known to the general public, but on the other hand, I’d probably have a hard time believing you felt strongly about a particular cause if you were walking around simply playing back a recording of your protest chant.

On a set of 4 x D-sized batteries you can expect to get about 6-8 hours of broadcast time, and it even includes a siren option if you find your protests aren’t annoying enough. $22 from Otherland Toys.

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By Chris Scott Barr

When you were a kid, how many times did you get home a little late when your parents weren’t home, but lied and told them you were on time? Or perhaps you snuck out, then back in late at night. Fess up, I’m sure that you did it at least once. Well it seems that some parents may be able to keep track of just when exactly their children arrived home. Oddly enough, it comes in the form of a femtocell.

DoCoMo has announced a new femtocell that not only helps your cell phones maintain a great signal while you’re at home, but it also can send out notifications when a phone has entered the area. Essentially, the parents could set it up to get an email every time their child came home. Seems like an interesting idea, until the kid figures out that he can flood his parents inbox by going in and out of the range of the device over and over. Come to think of it, that’s probably the first thing I’d do in protest.

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