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Problems that anger and depression can cause

Posted by on Thursday, 5 November, 2009

One of the things that can sometimes be good or, at other times, be very bad is emotions.Emotions like joy, happiness, love, and others are good for people and good for the health.But you also have emotions like anger, sadness, and depression.They are also emotions but they can be hard to handle at times.  Most of the times people are able to control it.But there are situation where these emotions can be dangerous.

For example, depression is a tough situation to get out of.It might be due to some tragic event that happened in someone’s life.Losing one’s family member to an accident or natural death can trigger it.Or it can also be caused by a chemcal imbalance in your body.One dangerous emotion that was shown in the news one time is when a man’s depression became and turned into an emotion called anger.His situation is hopeless and that is the reason why his depression became anger. He went berserk and he hurt some people.That is an extreme case and it happens rarely but it still and does happen.  That is why as a depression counselor I try to tackle the problem head on before it can turn into anger.

Well, if there are times that it does turn into anger then that is the time that you have to seek another form of counseling.  And that form is anger management counseling help.  Because unlike depression which is passive most of the times.  Anger can lash out at others and harm others.  So if a person is experiencing anger one needs to deal with it immediately before it gets any worse.

Of course in my family therapist San Diego practice I see a full range of emotions.Usually, the cases I see are the ones that are already affecting the family relations.  That is when counseling is appropriate. One thing that you wouldn’t and should not want to happen to your family is let it be ripped apart because of uncontrollable emotons.  And it should be the goal of all family counselors to nip it in the bud.  A good thoughtful counseling program can do that and save many families.It has happened in the past and will still happen with the help of good counseling.


What makes one successful and one fail in sports

Posted by on Tuesday, 20 October, 2009

Sports and learning how to succed with it is funny indeed.you can take someone who is a great athlete, yet they can’t make it.  Then you can have an average athlete who excels beyond expectations.At first look it doesn’t seem explainable.But when you look closer you see the primary reason some have success while some fail is the mind.But what is the reasons for that?In this article that is something we are going to look at more closely.

So what is the reason the mind has become so important in sports?  As a San Diego sports psychologist I have been priveleged to see first hand why this is so.  First off the stereotype of athletes being big and dumb is false.  Athletes are some of the brightest individuals around.  And the most successful ones use are successful because they know how to use the mind.

Funny thing a lot of athletes come in needing my anger management San Diego practice.  Most of the time this anger stems from their failures in sports.But what I can do is help them turn it around.The way to really help them is to show them how failure begins within the mind.By being able to use their mind more effectively, they can have great success.It has proven itself over time many times.

Once the athlete is truly able to understand the power their mind has they can achieve success.  Most of the time they can achieve tremendous success.It is similar to how things are in life generally.The mind is so important when it comes to taking action and getting results.I take notice of this not just with athletes but also see it in families.  The San Diego family therapist practice I run I have used some of the same principles to help families achieve success.  Success in overcoming whatever family struggles they may be having.  In life and sports a lot of times the key is in your mind.


Family life and how it can be improved by anger management

Posted by on Tuesday, 13 October, 2009

One thing that all people have is their emotions.  On some people these emotions are more easily displayed.  For some emotions it is good.Some people display emotions such as happiness and excitement and laughter.Other people show anger and sadness more. Most people experience these emotions but sometimes they get out of hand. Anger is one of these emotions.

As you have read in this article anger can be dangerous and detrimental to family life. In my practice doing anger management in San Diego I have seen the effects it can have on a family. It could make staying with that person very very uncomfortable for the people staying with him/her. It makes everyone around the person afraid and be aloof with that person. It can turn what is supposed to be a place of safety into a negative place. That place of safety is home life. 

It may be surprising but anger sometimes stems from an emotional issue like depression. Whatever the case may be a person might be in a depressed mode. Often times it leads to anger when some problems seem unsolvable or there is no way out. That is why I advice everyone feeling depression to seek a depression counselor. It is best to stop something before it escalates into something worse. After all it might not lead to anger but maybe to something worse where they hurt themselves. 

Whatever the case may be these two emotions should be dealt with seriously. If you let either of the two emotions get the best of you and do not seek help then it will definitely get worse.It can ruin your family. It can ruin relationships.  Being a family therapist in San Diego I stress the importance of good relationships in family life. So I stress to you that any kind of emotional issues be dealt with immediately. Sometimes it is hard to go to someone for help. But this would prove to be very helpful in the long run especially for the person affected.


Depression and Anger-two emotions people have difficulty in dealing with

Posted by on Wednesday, 23 September, 2009

Both anger and depression are emotions that can be bad for someone.But they seem to be on opposite sides.One of the two emotions can be be seen by people exhibited by an affected person. While the other one can be unnoticed.

As a family therapist San Diego I have seen both emotions. Both need to be seen by an expert if the case is already problematic and causes harm to the patient and other people.These are not problems which someone can just ignore.When you are angry you can hurt other people.You can harm yourself if depressed.

So let’s take a look at anger first. Anger is a volatile emotion.It is natural and it happens to all of us.But sometimes people let it all out without consideration.It could seem uncontrollable sometimes.  And if you let it get away from you, it can be.But those are the times when you need to control it.Other people can be hurt physically or emotionally due to anger.  If it gets too much you need to seek some anger management counseling.

The other emotion is depression.  It is somewhat not as noticeable.The main reason is because most people hold in their depression.But it will get noticed eventually. When it becomes noticeable, then that would be the time that someone have to seek professional help.  Why would someone need professional help?Because harm can be done by a severely depressed person to himself or herself.  So it is dangerous because people hide it.  If a person gets to the point of severe depression they need professional help such as depression counseling.

When dealing with emotional problems it is hard.  Most people going through these types of problems feel like they can work it out.Or they feel like they can handle it on their own without anybody’s help.But that is the time when they need help the most.It is unacceptable for them.But when you are dealing with emotions that can hurt the affected and the people around him, then you need to do it.


How to use sports psychology to succeed

Posted by on Tuesday, 22 September, 2009

It doesn’t matter if you are a professional or an amateur you have to understand how important sports psychology is.The mind is so important to succeeding in sports.With the amount of pressure there is to make it, it will require more than athletic talent.  It is how well you are prepared mentally that is important.

So if your goal is success in sports you need to understand this.  I will be offering my perspective from doing sports psychology in San Diego.Because the faster you are able to see how important it is, the quicker you will be able to have success.

So what is it that makes it so important?  Well in times past there wasn’t so much pressure in sports.It is not just concerning the professional sports either.  It could go be pressure packed in high school or sooner.Well with that kind of pressure comes the mind part of it.When there wasn’t that pressure, sports was all about fun.  It was the best athletes win.  Now you could be the best athlete but if your mind is weak, you will crumble under the pressure.

I have watched it happen again and again at the high school sports level. I have done so much teen counseling San Diego I see how not being prepared mentally can set someone up for failure.But for the many who have had counseling and prepartion, they can expect a lot of success.

If a person is prepared for that pressure they can succeed.  By being prepared mentally they can be ready for whatever may come.  I have had many students and athletes come to me needing this guidance in my family therapist San Diego practice.  They range from very good athletes to the average.  With their mind prepared an average athlete can compete against superior competition. While a great athlete can soar ahead of everyone with that knowlege.

There is no denying how important the mental part of your game plays.  By understanding that, an athlete can jump ahead of the competition.


What to do in a struggling relationship

Posted by on Friday, 28 August, 2009

One of the best things we get to experience in our lives is relationships.From the wonderful experiences of family relationships to love relationships it is great.But a few times good relationships can turn bad.What was once considered something of great joy and happiness is now a source of pain and heartache.

I have seen this first hand helping people in couples therapy in San Diego. What was once a promising relationship becomes antagonistic.What once looked so beautiful and promising now has a very grim outlook.What occurred and what is there that can be done to fix it?

That is a huge question and one that will be difficult to answer.Most relationships that have problems are going to be different.  But my experience doing marriage counseling San Diego has shown me there are methods you can use to bring out good solutions.

One of the benefits that can help them is by providing a safe place.  A lot of times trying to deal with their struggles at home just doesn’t work.  By giving them a place where they can feel safe allows the opportunity to work things out.

Another benefit for the couple is that extra person will be another ear to hear them out.But not just any ear but one that doesn’t take sides.  An ear that will listen to the issues and address them impartially.Accomplishing that can work miracles.  That third person can address the issues apart from a heated argument.When a couple attempts to do it while they are in the midst of fighting it won’t work at that time.

Another thing to learn that can help the couple greatly is teaching them the benefits of listening to each other.  In my practice as a marriage counselor in San Diego, I help them develop these skills.  These skills help them hear each other out rather than always trying to win the point.

In doing this, they are really in a position to face the issue head on. Accomplishing these few tasks can work wonders in a troubled relationship.I have been a witness to it many times as a marriage therapist.